True Self Facilitator and Soul Adventurer - Empowering individuals to break through their limitations, unravel conditioning, heal from old wounds, and reconnect to their true selves.
Dear Reader
Over-responsibility, one of the greatest burdens you and I can carry through our life. Feeling and being responsible for adults and fulfilling their responsibilities. Responsibilities that are not yours or mine to hold and fulfill.
What was uncomfortable and confronting for me, in admitting I was over-responsible was that in essence I was parenting people whom I was not a parent to. I was parenting adults. Adults who are responsible for parenting themselves.
And in being over-responsible you carry the burdens of other peoples choices, actions and responsibilities.
And as a result of you taking responsibility for the person and their responsibilities you limit the growth in their ability to take responsibility for themselves and to fulfill what they are responsible for.
Questions for you:
What if - instead of you taking and holding responsibility for the person, you supported them to take responsibility for themselves.
What if - you facilitated and assisted them to take responsibility so that they could fulfill their responsibilities.
Then potentially they go from dependent (and even co-dependent) to becoming independent.
What is important is to ask them, because does the person want to grow their ability to be self-responsible or not. They may not even be aware of this dynamic. And in them making a decision they take responsibility.
Your decision is whether you choose to continue to carry responsibility for people whom you are not responsible for.
Whatever your choice is, is your responsibility and the key is acceptance of what comes with your choice.
Melinda xx
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True Self Facilitator and Soul Adventurer - Empowering individuals to break through their limitations, unravel conditioning, heal from old wounds, and reconnect to their true selves.
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