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IMAD Processing Prompt - How comfortable are you to say "yes" or "no" and to whom?
Dear Reader
"Yes" and "No" - two words that are definitely small in their length, yet powerful in terms of the processing that sits behind both of these responses, and the impacts they have on you and the people around you.
They are significant processes that are a reflection of your self-worth.
And you do not have to use these exact words to say "yes" or "no".
Your comfort, familiarity and ability to say "yes" or "no" are indicators of whether you experience a lack of self-worth or not.
Feeling you have to say "yes" to people and requests that you know deep within you are not right for you, can be driven by a need to, put others first, not upset other's, the fear of not being involved, the fear of not being of value, even the fear of not being asked again and for so many other reasons.
You operate from a place of believing you are not important enough, not deserving of voicing your opinion and of having what you want, a place of scarcity, and not being worthy enough.
And on the flip side of you feeling you have to say "yes" is the discomfort you experience in saying "no".
However how many times do you say "no" to the wonderful and honoring things that you do deserve?
To grow your self-worth it requires you to:
Consciously take steps to say "no".
No to the things you no longer deserve that do not support your self-worth and that quite simply - are not right for you, and that you do not want to do.
Where you honor you.
As well as for you to consciously take steps to say "yes".
Yes to what you do deserve that honors you, that reinforces your self-worth. Yes to what is right for you, that you do want and want to do.
And when you do say "yes" or "no" from a place of self-worth, you say it with respect and care so that your approach reinforces and supports the self-worth of yourself and the other person.
It is only uncomfortable saying "yes" and "no" from a place of self-worth because it is unfamiliar.
Each time you voice what is true and right for you, the more familiar and natural it becomes.
Melinda xx
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Melinda Cates
True Self Facilitator and Soul Adventurer - Empowering individuals to break through their limitations, unravel conditioning, heal from old wounds, and reconnect to their true selves.
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